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February 19, 2007
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We can’t all be Scrooge McDuck.

In response to one of my favorite blogs, Dumb Little Man, (which isn’t in the least bit dumb!)

I keep hearing ads on the radio for that “keep the change” credit card. You know, the one where you spend money on something with your card, and the card company rounds the amount up to the next dollar and puts the change into a savings account for you. The premise is that you then are astonished to find out that you actually have more money than you thought you did, and it was all so easy because the credit card folks took care of it.

This is SUCH a dumb idea, on so many levels. To me, it ranks right up there with the old “Christmas Club” savings accounts that the banks used to hype the hell out of when I was a kid. (Those were savings accounts that had mandatory deposits and paid no interest whatsoever, just for starters.) Dangle a dubious reward in front of the financially naive, though, and they’ll go for it every time, whether it be a bit of pocket change siphoned off the top of a credit card that charges you interest, or a savings account that gives you your own money back at Christmas time. And don’t get me started on tax refunds.

Where does the money for the rounding-up come from? Is it a gift to you from the credit card company? Or are you paying it to yourself when you pay the credit card bill? They never seem to go into detail about this, either. I can’t picture a credit card company giving you free money. And if they mention the interest rate on these cards, it’s in that bit at the end that sounds like they sped it up about 50x. So, are you using a card that has a 15% interest rate (or more) to put a few cents into a savings account that pays… what? And what happens if you don’t pay the bill off in full?

Cue the sound of Robert Preston saying “Think, men, think!”

I’ve also seen people on message boards here and there talking about how they or someone they know do the same thing with their checkbook. They round up to the next dollar and write that amount down, and gee whiz, when the check statement comes in they’ve got more money in the account than they thought they did.

Unless of course they’d figured they had more money in the account than what the register said and spent it all, at which point they’d get a very precise overdraft charge from the bank.

And, of course, more and more people are using debit cards in lieu of checks these days, and keeping track of the balance in Quicken or MS Money or something similar. Sure, you can round-up a check you’re typing into your software, but what do you do with the checks you write with your software to pay bills? (Write it for the correct amount, print it out, then go back and round-up the amount in the register?) What do you do about amounts that you have deducted from your checking account automatically? For that matter, when you go to reconcile your account in Quicken (et al), what do you do with the “extra” money?

The easiest way to save money is to not spend it in the first place. The easiest way not to spend it is to convince yourself you don’t have it to spend. And the easiest way to do this is to have an automatic deduction from every paycheck, into a savings or money-market account. Some employers will even do this for you automatically, especially if there is a company credit union. But it’s easy enough to set up with your bank.

Start off slow, so you get used to having a smaller paycheck to spend. Once you’ve adjusted to that, raise the amount of the automatic deduction a bit at a time. Of course, you have to adjust your spending accordingly, but not having extra money to blow on stuff you don’t need is not such a bad thing.

And don’t transfer that money back out of savings for anything other than a genuine financial emergency. And if you do have to transfer it back to checking, try to increase the amount you take out the next month so the withdrawal gets put back.

You’ll have a lot more “change” to keep this way, and you don’t need a credit card at all.

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February 18, 2007
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where’s Uncle Traveling Matt?

I just got an email from Smithsonian Journeys, and one of the things they’re advertising is their Egyptian Tour. (They don’t know how to spell “pharaoh,” but I’ll allow them one small gaffe.)

I have often said that I want to go to Egypt when I’m 60. Now I know basically how much money I will need (although it’ll surely cost more in 2010, I at least have a starting point). It’s good to know where to begin. This particular ten-thousand-mile journey is definitely going to have to start with very small steps.

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February 17, 2007
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Beautiful music, beautiful mind

Bartók in the Desert: The Art of Irén Marik

 

 

Bartok in the DesertIren was my grandmother’s partner, and they lived together for the last thirty years of my grandmother’s life. I grew up listening to her practicing, which for any less accomplished pianist would have been a concert performance. Arbiter Records has begun issuing compliations of her performances, and the liner notes to the first CD (Bartok in the Desert) give a succinct account of Iren’s life.

 

I wish Gran and Iren were still in Independence, giving their monthly soirees. I would walk there every step of the way if I knew they’d be waiting for me when I got there.

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February 9, 2007
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I love WordPress.

Orange County Choppers (TM): The Tale of the TeutulsJust experimenting with plugins. This is a good book if you’re interested in the “backstory” of the Teutul family from Orange County Choppers (aka “American Chopper” on TLC). Click on the image to go straight to Amazon!

This book goes into much more detail about the family than the previous “At Full Throttle” book did. Maybe too much. But it does give one a better idea of why the family dynamic is the way it is.

Definitely worth a look if you’re an OCC fan.

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February 5, 2007
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gimme a head with hair…

I decided long ago that when I retired I’d grow my hair long again.

I wore it long for a long time. I let it grow till it quit growing, back when I was in my teens and early twenties, but in my mid-twenties I got a job that included a lot of public relations work and I thought that the “aging hippie” look didn’t go well with the job. So I got the name of my office mate’s hairdresser and went to see him, armed with a picture of the haircut I wanted.

I should have known something was up when he turned me away from the mirror to do the cutting. He snipped and shaped and combed and snipped some more, went over the result with a hair dryer, and turned me to face the mirror.

I was in shock. My hair looked like something a Marine barber would have loved. I went from having hair to the middle of my back, to having hair that was barely an inch long all over my head.

When I went to pay the man, I gave him the price he quoted for the haircut. He bristled. “In this profession, tips are expected,” he said. “Really?” said I. “Here’s a tip for you, then. If you ever come near me with a pair of scissors again I’ll kill you.”

After I left that job to become a full-time mom, I let my hair grow till it quit growing, again, and maintained that length till just before my second child was born. It was a long hot spring and I had long hot hair. I cut it short myself.

From then on, I kept my hair short, although I didn’t cut it again myself. Once I went back to work, the shorter hair style was much more practical. And once my doctor started loading me up on medications that made my hair thin out, it was even more practical. It’s a lot easier to make short hair fluff up and hide its shortcomings.

But now, I’m letting it grow out. It’s still thin, and this is undoubtedly not the most practical decision I’ve ever made. But I’ve decided to try the experiment and see what happens when it’s finished growing. I can always have it cut short again.

My hair is just below shoulder length at the moment. I can finally pull it back in a ponytail, for the first time in years. I can roll it up in back and clip it. My grey streaks now look like highlights, although I’m sure a hairdresser would have chosen a different color. While I used to have to do just one lather-and-rinse when I washed it, I now have to do two, and I’ve found some “volumizing” conditioner in hopes of making it look at least a little thicker.

Most of all, though, I’m getting used to feeling it on my shoulders again. I’d forgotten what that was like.

Back to the future? In any case, I like it.

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February 3, 2007
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we are family…

Today I scanned photos to send to my newly-found relatives. I don’t have a lot of old family pictures here, so I decided to try to find those that might be most interesting to someone of my father’s generation who was seeing us all for the first time.

So I had photos of my parents with my dad’s parents, photos of my grandparents with me and my brothers when we were young, some pictures of my cousin and her family and some of me with F’zer and the kids. I threw in a picture from our wedding because it’s pretty funny to look at, with all those hot 1972 fashions, and because it shows my Uncle Barry, whom I don’t have pictures of otherwise, and my parents during the last few years of their marriage.

The whole process of picking out photos that are representative of a family is interesting in and of itself. Do you pick the ones with the family looking serene or looking goofy? Do you include a photo in which everyone is patently Not Ready For Prime Time, because it’s the only one of its kind, or leave it out because you don’t want anyone seeing you like that? (I made a copy.) Do you include photos of relatives in their last years when they’re plainly showing the ravages of time? (Yes and no.) What best represents the family as it is, and was?

I have some slides that were taken just prior to my oldest brother’s wedding, which turned out to be the last group photo of our nuclear family together. (Nuclear, indeed, since our parents’ marriage blew up only a few months later.) The slides are very dark, and my attempts to scan them and reprint them have not been successful. I guess I need to take them to a professional photo finishing place and see what they can do. Now, the question is where such a place can be found, these days. The camera store I worked at is long gone, and the only other local camera store has also closed its doors.

After I get done looking up camera stores, I suppose I should start researching the possibility of buying a newer scanner. There is always a good reason to buy more peripherals, right?

My family. I think I’ll keep them.

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January 28, 2007
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backup blues

For some reason, trying to back up anything to do with WordPress crashes my backup software. The only way I’ve been able to get past this in the past is to make sure that anything to do with WordPress is in a zip file before I try backing up.

I’ve managed to crash Nero Backup four times in succession today, trying to do a full backup of all my data. And there doesn’t appear to be any way to go back and re-select the files once the backup has started. So tonight after supper (and hopefully after the steam stops coming out my ears) I’ll have to go through and pick the files to back up yet again.

Whoever thought being prudent would be such a royal pain in the butt?

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January 27, 2007
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you can’t always get what you want…

Over on LiveJournal there’s a “celebrity crush” meme making the rounds. I got to thinking about the celebrities whom I’ve found attractive over the years and for the most part they tend to be tall, dark, handsome white guys who are older than me. And all of them have brown eyes. I have always been attracted to men with brown eyes.

And who did I marry? A fairly tall man with dark blonde hair (at least it was that color when we met) who is the only green-eyed kid in a brown-eyed family. Not classically handsome, but still good looking. And we’re at 34 years and counting. I guess with all those celebrities I only thought I knew what I liked.

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January 22, 2007
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and they’re off…

I feel unusually efficient today.

Got my desk cleaned off and the office tidied up yesterday. Went to the grocery store today and got six meals for three people for less than $65. I’ll have to buy more milk and probably a few incidental items later in the week, but still.

Now, of course, I am sitting at my computer piddling around and not getting things done. I need to quit wasting what’s left of a very good day.

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